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Mary (Santiago) Sherman

Born: Sat., Mar. 24, 1962
Died: Fri., Feb. 5, 2021


8:30 AM to 11:30 AM, Sat., Feb. 13, 2021
Location: Pomierski Funeral Home

Funeral Service

11:30 AM Sat., Feb. 13, 2021
Location: Private

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Mary F. Sherman, nee Santiago, beloved wife of Matthew Sherman; loving mother of Melissa (Kevin) Ryan and Joseph (Megan) Sherman; devoted grandmother of Emily Ryan, Ethan Ryan, Joseph Sherman and James Sherman; dear daughter of the late Luis Santiago and Dolores (nee Castillo) Santiago Weber; loving sister of Luis (Debbie) Santiago, Irene (Richard) Stephens, Dr. Julio (Dr. Kristin) Santiago, Nelson (Sherry) Santiago, and Maggie (James) Paske; daughter-in-law of the late Dorothy (nee Bosi) Sherman Konczal and late Harold Konczal; sister-in-law of the late Michael Sherman, Donna Sherman Jasutis, Mark (Eileen) Sherman, and late Stephen (Sue) Sherman;loving aunt and friend of many.

Visitation will be Saturday, February 13, 2021 from 8:30 to 11:30 am at Walter Pomierski & Son Funeral Home, 1059 West 32nd Street. A private service and burial will follow.

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Karen & Dave Bosi
   Posted Mon February 08, 2021
Matt, Melissa, Joey, kiddos, and extended loving family ... we are so so so so sorry for your deep deep deep loss. The home going of Mary is very bitter sweet, she will be dearly missed and you will have a deep hole in your heart! We are praying that our loving Father will fill you all up To overflowing and that He will keep you in His protective care and surround you with His peace That passes understanding! Sending you great big healing hugs, wish we could be there with you to deliver them personally. 😒 We love πŸ’• you deeply!! Love your cousins and Dave and Karen

Erica Jarosz
   Posted Mon February 08, 2021

MONET'S GARDEN TABLE BASKET was sent by Erica Jarosz (Olson).

Wishing you peace to bring comfort, courage to face the days ahead and loving memories to forever hold in your heart. Our deepest, most heartfelt condolences are with you and your family Uncle Red. With All Our Love, The Olson's (Kim, Michael, Conrad Jr, Erica, Justin, Jacob & Kevin)

Mary Jo Eibler
   Posted Tue February 09, 2021
Almighty God,
source of all mercy and giver of comfort;
Deal graciously with those who mourn,
casting all their sorrow on you,
they may know the consolation of your love;
through your Son, Jesus Christ our Lord.

My deepest condolence to the family

Pam Cirello
   Posted Tue February 09, 2021
Sherman (Santiago) Family:

I am so sorry for your loss. Your family is in my prayers. I know how you all feel and no words can take away the hurt, just know you are being thought of and now you have a special angel watching over you.

Crystal Blade
   Posted Tue February 09, 2021


Sending our warmest condolences. I hope today you are surrounded by love!! May she fly with the angels and her memories fill your hearts with peace. We are praying for your comfort and healing during these difficult days to come. Love and bigs hugs , Crystal , Ella & Jonathan

Gabriela Santiago
   Posted Tue February 09, 2021

GARDEN PATH was sent by Gabriela Santiago.

I will never forget the last time I saw Aunt Mary. It was the holidays, and though she was tired, she opened her home to us and showered us with affection, gifts, and most important of all, her time and presence. I will miss her very much.

Tony Hammond
   Posted Wed February 10, 2021
Thinking of the family is these hard times. My thoughts and prayers to you all.

gregorio castillo
   Posted Wed February 10, 2021

TRADITIONAL FUNERAL BASKET was sent by uncle greg amd aunt elizabeth.

from uncle greg and aunt elizabeth

Mary Krzywicki
   Posted Wed February 10, 2021
I was saddened and grieved to hear the news. My sympathies to Matt and the family of Mary on your precious loss. Praying that the Lord will shower you with love, comfort and peace. I have many good memories of Mary she was such a wonderful lady, with a beautiful spirit, always smiling. I was blessed to have her as a friend.

Bernadette Gillard
   Posted Wed February 10, 2021
My dear Melissa, Joe, and the entire Sherman family, my thoughts and prayers are with you. Your Mom was a beautiful person and she will be missed.

Tio Pedro, Tia Santa and family
   Posted Wed February 10, 2021
We want to extend our deepest condolences to all family. Wonderful memories will leave on forever in our hearts! Rest in peace Mary. God bless you all.

With love,

Tio Pedro, tia Santa and family

Ladie Rivera
   Posted Wed February 10, 2021

SWEET AND WARM REMEMBRANCE PEDESTAL ARRANGEMENT was sent by Tio Pedro, Tia Santa and family.

We want to extend our deepest condolences to all family. Wonderful memories will leave on forever in our hearts! Rest in peace Mary. God bless you all. With love, Tio Pedro, tia Santa and family

Christine Gillard
   Posted Thu February 11, 2021

SWEET AND WARM REMEMBRANCE PEDESTAL ARRANGEMENT was sent by Christine, Danny, and Jessica Famera.

We are so sorry for your loss. Mary was so special and will be missed so much. With love and sympathy, Christine, Danny, and Jessica Famera

   Posted Fri February 12, 2021

SOMEWHERE OVER THE RAINBOW WREATH was sent by Dr Julio Santiago and family, Kristin, Marina, Gabriela, Kira, Max and Sophia.

Farewell little sister One journey ends and another begins

Yvonney Hernandez
   Posted Fri February 12, 2021

SHADES OF ELEGANCE was sent by Marcelina HernΓ‘ndez, Yvonney Guido and Family.

Dan & Kim Clancy
   Posted Sat February 13, 2021
So very sorry to hear of Mary’s passing, she was always so sweet and fun when we would see her at the annual Bridgeport Christmas party. May she Rest In Peace πŸ™πŸ»

Prayers & hugs,

Dan & Kim Clancy

Laura Somers
   Posted Thu February 18, 2021
Whats up C.......its G....just thinking about you and missing you.I am missing your phone calls now. missing your laugh. i think I am gonna be missing you for quite a while. You are my Best Friend Mary. I think about you so much.....you should be here
we should be laughing on the phone. You made me laugh a lot C........I know we will be hanging out again when its my turn but it should have been in much later years for you too.
I love you C........Love always G.

Linda Wilsterman
   Posted Fri February 19, 2021
Hi Red
I know how sad you are ,Missing Mary. You and Mary had a love that was unconditional. She was your only love and you hers. I think of all the times we got together and did nothing but laugh. Both of you had that gift of making everyone laugh. Please know your not alone. Besides having your kids and grandkids and your brothers and sisters , You have your Friends. We all love you and whenever you need a friend to talk to , We are a phone call away. Mary We all miss you and will keep you in our hearts always.
Love Linda πŸ™πŸ»πŸ™πŸ»πŸ™πŸ»πŸ™πŸ»β€οΈβ€οΈβ€οΈπŸ’πŸ’

Matthew J Sherman
   Posted Fri February 26, 2021
My Dearest Mary,
3 weeks ago today you left this physical world for your spiritual journey to Heaven. Each day I pray and I keep you up to date on our family as I try to live my life without you. Each day is a first for something, and I am trying to live in the moment and accept the waves of pain and loneliness that crash against me as I gasp for air. Our support team continues to be supportive of me, making sure I have food and finding time to make time to help ease the burden of not having you here with me, physically.
I must say that your service was outstanding. Saturday February 13th was a cold, snowy day and despite these conditions and Covid 19 you had around 200 people show up to say good bye. I was so happy for you and I know that you felt all the love and respect from all who attended.
Sister Donna gave a wonderful eulogy. She shared our story and touched on our children, grandchildren and your many talents.
Maggie also spoke and shared the story of your birth as twins and how you came into the world first and how you were the first to go to Heaven, she tied it together very nicely.
Your best friend Laura also spoke and discussed how much she loved you and your journey as friends, and she reminded me how much you love me, which I always love to hear. I then offered all an opportunity for any one else to speak, no one was brave enough to do so, I say this because a few of our friends told me they wished that they had gotten up to speak when they had a chance.
I danced with you to our wedding song Ribbon in the Sky. The Decan, Kevin O'Donnell, then finished the services with stories I shared with him about you (Ace Ventura stories) your love of dancing, music, watching old movies, baking, cooking and always looking to do something nice for someone, you have a heart of gold.
Most of your final wishes I was able to honor. I was able to find a grave site close to my Mom so when family came to visit they can park once and visit you, Mom and Harry, the services were held at Pomierski Funeral Home, it was a single day viewing and funeral, white casket, Cagney and Duke urns were placed with you and rest with you, white flowers, your relaxing music you listened to each night to help you sleep was played.
I prefer not to think about the action of others who decided not to honor a wish of yours, so I will leave that where it lays.
I love you Mary and miss you with all my heart. One day we shall be reunited and at that time, it will be for an eternity, which we loved to talk about to help comfort each other as our journey on earth was nearing the end.
Love you forever and a day.

Matthew J Sherman
   Posted Fri March 05, 2021
Today at 5:30 PM will be 4 full weeks since you left the physical world and started your spiritual journey. Me our children and Grandchildren miss you so much and we are supporting each other through the maze of pain. We are busy planning your Heavenly Birthday celebration. Our church has accepted our request to have your name mentioned at the 10AM mass and we have about 20 people scheduled to be at your mass. We will then go to the cemetery and then lunch as we will comfort each other and celebrate our beautiful memories of you and your amazing spirit and strength. As time passes, those of us that love you, have felt your empty space and we have to accept that nothing will ever completely heal the hole in our hearts left by your departure. Our Faith remains strong that our Lords promise will be kept.
We love you so much.

Matthew J Sherman
   Posted Fri March 19, 2021
Hello my Love,
Today is week 6 since you started your spiritual journey. I continue to pray for your peace and for my ability to learn to live without your physical presence. I try to spend as much time with our children and grandchildren, who bring me my greatest joy. The world is so different without you. I am starting to learn how to cook. You would be proud of me for trying to cook, but the more I cook the more I miss your cooking. I was just thinking how we used to say you were the cook and I was the clink (clean) and after doing pots and pans and plates and glasses and all that goes with that I really learned to appreciate going out to dinner and leaving a good tip. I am having some work done on the house that needs some TLC that I did not have time for when we were on our journey, and now that you are not here my mind is not able to focus for any period of time...yet. It will soon be your 1st birthday in Heaven and the 1st birthday we will not celebrate together in over 40 years. I will be with the kids and grandkids this weekend to celebrate your birthday, but on your actual day I am not sure how that day will go yet. I am sure I will visit you after work but beyond that is open.
Ok my Love, I love you so much and you are always in my heart and with me.
Love you

Matthew J Sherman
   Posted Wed March 24, 2021
Today our family is celebrating your 1st Heavenly Birthday. We normally celebrated your birthday week, not just the day because you loved to do so much, and to get me to do everything you wanted to do you would say "buts its my birthday" and I would fall for it each time...little did you know that I loved to do everything you loved to do because I love you. I could go anywhere, as long as you were there with me. We had a beautiful birthday celebration on Sunday the 21st with our family and friends. We did Mass with your name mentioned, we did the cemetery and sang happy birthday and released balloons, and finally we did lunch at Jedis. It was a beautiful day, a little windy but sunny and pleasant.
Tonight the kids and grandkids and I will meet for dinner and keep each other company as we remember you. We all love you and miss you so. Our world has changed without you in it, but we are being as strong as we can. Happy Birthday my Love. You are loved and missed so much by the family.

Matthew J Sherman
   Posted Fri March 26, 2021
Hi Mary,
Today marks the 7th week since you passed from this world. We did met at Foxes pizza on 143rd and LaGrange to celebrate your birthday. Joe and his family were unable to attend but Missy, Kev and the kids met me there at 6PM. It was a nice time as we reminisced about the last time we celebrated your birthday there, 3 years ago. There was a traveling magician and the Irish bag pipers so we must have gone on St. Paddy's day and not on your actual birthday, we are thinking. We are all missing you everyday and we know you are in Heaven and have Peace and you are pain free. I continue to see my grieve counselor who is really helping me find peace in my life and helping me through the process of finding the light at the end of the tunnel. I am not there yet, but it is no longer complete darkness. I see shadows and I still bump into things, and some days are better than others, but I feel I am making progress in being able to think about you and see you before the cancer came. I love you Mary...you were and always swill be the love of my life. We had 47 years as soul mates, we grew up together, usually in each others arms as we changed from kids, to adolescents to adults. We were just entering into our mature adult years when our Lord called you home. We still wanted the journey to continue, our love was strong and evolving, watching our Grandchildren grow up. Our Emily will be a teenager this November...I know it is crazy how fast time is going by. I will do my best to be there for our family, same as if you were still walking with me, shoulder to shoulder thanking GOD for our blessings.
I love you so much Mary...forever and a day.

Matthew J Sherman
   Posted Wed April 07, 2021
Hi Mary,
Friday April 2nd, Good Friday, was your 8th week since you left this world. As to be expected I am still having good days and not so good days. The not so good days hit me out of the blue, it don't take much for something to trigger my missing you so much. I am starting to understand that I am having a moment and that it will pass, I just need to catch my breath and let it run it course. If I am out in public then I have to force the issue and try to think of something else, which I am getting better at.
Easter Sunday I saw the kids and Grandkids, it was a beautiful day. Missy gave me a plate of food to take home. I stopped by you and Mom and Bebop before I went home, I was home around 430.
I am scheduled to take Ethan for his communion suite on Saturday and go to church with Missy's family that afternoon, Ethan is making his reconciliation, May 1st is his communion.
I will be having dinner with Joe and his family tonight, Wednesday is our scheduled dinner time. Well that all for now. I love you and miss you so much.

Matthew J Sherman
   Posted Mon April 19, 2021
My Dearest Mary,
Friday April 16th was your 10th week of your passing. As you know there was a small reason for celebration this weekend. We did complete the gardens but did not add the flowers yet because they are calling for a hard freeze and snow on Tuesday the 20th.
Missy and her family came by on Saturday and me, Kevin and Ethan built the gardens, it took about 2 hours. Missy and Emily made special celebration cards and ordered me lunch and dinner for this day.
Our son Joe stopped by with little Joe and we played catch in the yard and had some laughs...Little Joe is really funny and smart I love talking to him. Joe brought a cake and they sang HD to me.
On Sunday I started cleaning up your dresser and went into your dresser drawers and found 2 gifts for me...I know they were for me because one was a DVD called "The best Dad" and the other was a sign about what Grandpa likes. I was shocked because Sunday was my actual BD and there were gifts from you to me. This was a very emotional moment for me and I considered it a sign that you somehow knew I would find these on my day.
I met with Donna for breakfast at Top View, went to church and then to visit you. I stopped at Tony's for a few last minute items I needed and headed home. Joe called me on my ride home and invited me to Connie's pizza for an early dinner, I accepted. We met at 4PM had a wonderful time...dessert was tiramisu and coffee our favorite. I was home by 545. I watch a little TV and was in bed around 830, which is actually a little late for me recently I have been going to sleep around 8PM.
Well that's it for now my love.
I love you Mary...forever and a day.

Laura aka G
   Posted Tue April 20, 2021
Hey C I'm sitting here just thinking about you haven't really stopped. It's hard too understand that you are gone before me. That's not how it was suppose to be. I'm having a hard time with you being gone and not being able to talk to you. I miss you so much.i wish I could talk to you. You are my true best friend. I was able to talk to you. My heart is still broken. I'm hoping you come to me in my dreams to let me know that your okay.just not fair that your not here.i miss you I love you. You are C and I am G. No one can take ur place girlfriend. I will write you again.love G.

Matthew J Sherman
   Posted Mon April 26, 2021
We are in our 11th week of your spiritual journey. I just wanted to give a brief update on my past week. I did suffer a side effect from my Covid shot from April 10th, on April 22nd. 12 days after my shot I suffered fatigue. I left work early on Thursday and stayed home on Friday. By Friday evening I was doing better. I stopped by to see you on Saturday and added the dirt from San Antonio to your site. The grass seeds have been planted and the netting and hay was covering your site. I shook a cup or so of this dirt from Aunt Lupe onto the grass seeds so it will forever be a part of the grass that grows from now on. The remaining dirt I will add to your gardens in the coming days.
Sunday I went to see Joey play his first baseball game. Missy and her family joined in on this celebration, not that it was Joeys 1st game, but some normalcy to our lives being able to do these types of family things. It was so much fun, Joey is going to be a good player, as in true Sherman fashion he was the smallest player on the team, but his heart and desire, another Sherman trademark were on full display.
James wanted to be my me almost the whole time, you know Papa was loving his attention, I really needed that love. We went for a quick lunch afterwards and I went out to Missy's house to go watch Ethan play his soccer game. We had a little time so we had coffee and a doughnut at Missy's then off to Ethan's game, played in his school field...very nice facility, they played a team from Chicago. The weather quickly changed, the winds picked up and the weather dropped so I had to leave shortly after the 2nd half started.
I made pork chops and baked potato for dinner, I have left overs for tonight. Settled in for the night and said my good night to you around 830.
I love you and miss you, my Love. I will always love you, for all eternity.

Matthew J Sherman
   Posted Mon May 03, 2021
We are on week 12 of your spiritual journey and I am hopeful that you are feeling at peace. I wanted to share family updates with you. Ethan made his 1st holy communion on Saturday May 1st at noon. It was a beautiful sunny day, reached 80 degrees, but very windy. Ethan was so handsome in his new suite, and his excitement was bubbling over. The family in attendance was Missy and her family, Mr. & Mrs. Ryan, Donna and me. The ceremony was over around 1PM and we took some family pictures outside of church, no pictures were allowed to be taken during the ceremony or anywhere in the church, even after the ceremony. We went to Missy's house afterwards and Joe and his family was already there waiting for us. Mark came by at 2PM. The Ryan clan came in different bunches but by 3PM everyone was there. Missy and Kevin did a BBQ with different side salads and fried appetizers. They did a wonderful job with the food, and the house was set up so beautiful, you would have been so proud of the effort that they put into this celebration. I did make the thank you cards, I went to a downtown catholic store and purchased 1st communion mass cards, with the prayer on the back, a communion medal and created a little communion logo with a simple thank you from Ethan. Everyone loved them and said it reminded them of you, something you would have made...which was my intentions. You were very present at the celebration. Missy made delicious cup cakes and again did a wonderful job with decorating the house, we all were thinking of you...what would Grandma do? that's what we did...mission accomplished.
I was on my way home around 5PM, it had been a long day, I was up at 3AM, and had no nap. I took a plate of food home and when I got home I was tired , but a little hungry so I ate some food and was sleeping by 730PM. I went to 730 AM mass at our church, afterwards I stopped by you and we discussed Ethan's special day, went to the grocery store, I was home around 11AM. I took a afternoon walk and was just reflecting on the weekend and how I wish that you were here with me, but I know I have to wait until it is my turn to actually be with you again. Until that day I will try to be the best dad and Papa I can, and always keep you close in my heart, for you are and always will be the love of my life. I miss you and love you so much. Please rest in peace and know that we will be together again.

Matthew J Sherman
   Posted Mon May 10, 2021
We are in week 13 of your spiritual journey. I went to visit you on Saturday May 8th to place new decorations for Mothers day and was surprised to see our headstone was in place. The funny thing is on Friday I called the cemetery to check the status of the headstone and was told because of the pandemic everything is pushed back a couple of weeks.
Later that day was Joeys 4th birthday party at his house. I was there at 1PM, the party started at 3PM. Joe asked that I come early to help out where I could, plus he used our pop up gazebo and we needed to set that up. It was a nice day, a bit chilly but no rain with some wind. The food was catered by Baraco's, we had breaded chicken, beef, mustachio, mashed potato's and a salad. The cake was a poke-man cake, professionally done. Which was also the theme of the party. By 6PM I was ready to leave, brought home some leftovers for Sunday. It was a quiet Saturday night, watched 45 years, I love that movie, and was in bed around 9PM.
Sunday May 9th, was Mothers day. It was a raw morning. At times the rain was heavy, it was in the low 40s, and windy. I went to 730 mass, then to the grocery store. By 1130 our family met at the cemetery and we said prayers, shared some memories, laughed and cried which is what is expected. We also walked over to Mom and Bebop and we left at noonish. Joe had plans with Megans family and Missy and her family and I tried to eat at Jedis, but the wait was to long so I went home and Missy left. The sun actually came out sometime after 3PM...I took a 2 mile walk at 330ish, was home at 430ish and had dinner. Watched a little tv, read a little bit and was in bed by 9ish.
The kids and I had a tough time on Mothers Day, missing you, our 1st Mothers Day without you. We love you and miss you Mary so much. Our prayer is that you are resting in peace and that you feel our love for you.

Matthew J Sherman
   Posted Mon May 17, 2021
Hi Mary,
We are in week 14 of your spiritual journey.
A few updates. You received a Resolution from the City of Chicago acknowledging your passing. It was presented by our Alderman, Marty Quinn, to the City Council on February 26th. It is a document that the Mayor and the council members express their sorrow on your passing, and express their condolences to our family and friends. Signed off by the Mayor, Lori Lightfoot. I have attached a picture to the Photo section for viewing. I was given a few copies of this document and have passed them out to our children, specific members of your family, and your best friend Laura. The documents were presented to me by Barbra Ziegler. A very touching moment and my heart was full of joy that you received such as honor. I never seen or even heard of this before...you are loved and respected by so many people.

I did visit you on Friday after work because I was missing you so much. I then ordered dinner from Jedi's Turkey, mashed potato's and stuffing. I must admit I was getting tired of TV dinners and cans of soup. I wish I would have been a better cooking partner with you so I could make some of your dishes. I miss your cooking so much, we all do. Just one of the many things you did for us that we loved so much.

On Saturday I went to see Ethan play soccer in Woodridge. He told me he was going to score a goal for us, and guess what he did. It was awesome, he was so happy he came through and it really was a magical moment for all of us. He also made us a homemade card, it is in the photo section. He misses you Grandma so much, he is always talking about you and has your picture on his desk at home. He carry's his rosary we got him for his 1st holy Communion because he thinks of you and it brings him good luck. It brought tears to my eyes. I then went to dinner with Gene and Marsha at Connie's in Bridgeport. We just shared a pizza and an appetizer, had a couple of beers and decided to visit Joe at Big Guys. We did not know anyone that was at the bar, there was about 10 other people there. We were laughing saying we are getting old and don't get out much because we were the strangers in our own place. But that was fine with us we had our fun back in the day. We talked about how you and I would get the juke box playing, dance, and get others up there, and share in the music and laughter. Always a good time when you are there. I guess those days I will always hold close to my heart.

On Sunday I went to visit you after mass. I broke out the fishing chair and played some our 70's love songs that are the sound tracks of our lives. I just sat there for about a half hour and we listened and talked quietly to each other. It was a beautiful Sunday morning, sun was shining, a slight breeze, birds chirping, our music playing and us together, it was almost perfect. I did visit Mom and Bebop.
When I left you I went to get some cards from the Dollar Tree for Kira. I was going to go to the grocery store but was pretty hungry so I decided to order breakfast from Top View, Popeye omelet, made with egg white, hash browns and pancakes. Went home and ate and closed my eyes for a few minutes. I went to see Joey play baseball, as always a good time. James gave me some much needed love, like he always does. I went to the grocery store after the game and then went home. I was watching a Love Boat show when I had a moment thinking of you, just missing you, so I had to lay down and catch my breath, that was our show back in the day, the Love Boat, a Lamilnese steak sandwich and you, that was and always will be at the top of my favorite things. I love you forever and a day my Love. Please watch over us and we will keep you in our prayers. One day we will be together again.

Matthew J Sherman
   Posted Mon May 24, 2021
Good morning Mary,
We are in week 15 of your spiritual journey. Our family is praying and we believe that you are at peace. Missy and the kids came by on Friday and we had dinner together. I had the steak salad from Anthony's. Very good salad. The family stayed for about an hour, they were going to Kevin's sister Colleens house to go swimming and Ethan and Emily were excited to get in the pool, it was a hot muggy night.
Saturday I went to dinner for Eileen's birthday with Mark, Eileen, Donna and Bob in Pilsen 24th and Western a place called El Vicinato, it is right by Bacchanalias one of our favorite places to eat. We had grilled calamari and a salad for our appetizer, I had eggplant parmigiana for my dinner. It was fantastic and both the calamari and my eggplant were not what I expected. The calamari was not fried or breaded and it came in large pieces that was precut in about 1.5 inch pieces...I though it was tilapia at first. It came with cooked spinach. My eggplant was not breaded or fried, it was a grilled eggplant with cheese and a little red sauce, fantastic. I felt like I ate healthy food and did not feel bloated. We sang happy birthday to Eileen and shared an Italian cheese cake...delicious.
After dinner we met up with Joe and Megan at a private club across the street from Bacchanalias. I stayed until 10PM. I was invited to go to Ronnie and Rose Kunows son wedding reception at the Twisted Shamrock. He was married last year but the pandemic did not allow for the reception. It was going on until 11PM so I went there to meet up with Laura and Tim for a half hour or so. I was there at about 1030 and was home by 1115. I really had a nice 45 minutes there, Ronnie and Rose shared their condolences and respect for you. When Ronnie took me to talk to his son, Josh, he immediately remembered you and me. He heard of our strong love and our journey and shared his respect for you. You touched so many people lives, some you probably had no idea. You touched peoples lives just be being you, you did stand on a soap box and shine a light on yourself, you walked quietly but with a purpose. You were kind and funny and so loved.
I did see you on Saturday and Sunday. On Sunday after Mass and visiting with you I did some shopping and just had a quiet Sunday. I love you Mary, you are the best thing that ever happened to me and I will live my life to the best of my ability to honor our family. Love you forever and a day!!! We will be together soon my love.

Matthew J Sherman
   Posted Tue June 01, 2021
Good morning Mary. We are in week 16 of your spiritual journey.
This was Memorial day weekend, so Monday was no work. It was a nice weekend weather wise and our family did BBQ on Saturday at Joes house. It started at 2PM and Missy and Emily were there on time but Ethan had a soccer game and he and Kevin showed up around 530PM. Joe made hamburgers, Italian sausage and he slow cooked some ribs. There was potato salad and corn on the cob. Everything was delicious. Missy brought a Oreo pie with graham crackers...so good. We all left Joes house around 745PM.
On Sunday I went to mass and then to visit you. It was a overcast day but no rain. I went to Marianos to do my shopping since I had not been there in a while, and let me tell you the price difference between Marioanos and Target for the basics is a big difference. Moving forward I will go to Marianos for meat and maybe fruits and veggies. I will stick with Target for the basics.
On Monday Missy, Kevin and Ethan came by to work on your gardens with me. We met at Home Depot and Missy approved the flowers I had picked out which includes a multi color rose bush, red, pink and white. We also planted some large spider plants and your other favorites the pansies. We planted flowers in the gardens and to the planters on the deck. I picked up a couple of more planters to surround the deck in flowers now. I have the patio furniture out now too. So the yard is starting to look familiar and how you liked it. I still have more flowers and plants I want to add, it is a work in progress.
I also did some more work in the attic trying to get rid of stuff that we have not used in decades as well as clean and organize. I found a pretty amazing find. In the process of going through the stuff I came across a clear plastic envelope that had the receipts from the annual golf outings. As I was going through the receipts I found a letter you wrote to me back on Valentines day 1978. It was a beautiful heart felt letter full of love. You were still 15 years old, I was 17 and we were so in love. I had to stop what I was doing because I was so overwhelmed, I reread that letter probably 20 times on Monday. Missy went up to the attic on Monday and came down with a fanny bag of yours. Inside the fanny bag was a old fortune cookie slip of paper that read " Red will be a very important color in your life" You saved this for who knows how long...another indication of your love for me. To say that Monday was a special day for me would be an understatement. These were signs for me that our love is still strong and that you are communicating this to me. I mean how does a love letter from 1978 end up in a clear envelope with golf outing receipts from 2006? I was thinking Thank God I looked deeper into the envelope and not dismiss it because I had to pull out the receipts and shuffle through them, in between various receipts there was the tri-fold 3 page letter that I unfolded to see what the heck it was and there I found you.
While I am doing better I still have moments where I just feel lost and out of sorts. I continue to take it a day at a time, I keep you in my thoughts and prayers everyday...my prayer is that you are at peace and that you can hear and see what our family is doing in your honor. We love and miss you so much.
I love you forever and a day, my Love.

Matthew J Sherman
   Posted Mon June 07, 2021
Hi Mary,
We are in week 17 of your spiritual journey. It was a hot weekend.
Kristin is in town with Jordan, Danny and Madison for Carols 90th birthday celebration on Saturday. I invited the family over on Friday night for pizza and apps and I invited Kris and her kids. Everyone but Jordan made it, he went to his Fathers side of the family for the night. We had Lou Malnatis pizza and combo platter. Everyone was at the house around 5PM and all were gone around 730PM. So it was a short but sweet visit.

We celebrated Carols 90th birthday on Saturday at Marks and Eileen's house. It started at 2PM. There were about 40 people there and the food was great, Baraco's catered it. I asked if I can bring anything and they said no, they had it covered. I reminded them that Mary never went anywhere empty handed and I want to bring something you want otherwise I will just bring what I want...they said OK bring the mustard potato salad. I thought about your homemade potato salad and how everyone loved it, but I was your partner in making that and it is a lot of work...so I bought the store brand from Jewels. For Carols gift I bought her a white rose wrist corsage, a plant, a bottle of wine and some chocolate mint melt. I signed the card from you and I. I just wanted to. I also wrote a special something for Carol, this was the first thing I wrote in sometime. I was waiting for the birthday song to read it, but Mark and a speech and I thought it best to catch Carol by herself to read it to her. I did just that and she loved it. I left it in her card for her to keep.

Carols party ended at 6PM, but Dave and Mary's engagement party started at 6PM. Our family did not stay for that, we went to Joes house and hung out there for awhile. On my way to Joes house on his corner there was a lemon aid stand with 4 kids. I decided to get me some lemon aid and support the kids. I had such a nice time talking to them. Kids are just wonderful, so honest and funny. The cup cost 0.50, I gave them a $10.00 bill and they were amazed. I got to Joes house and I took the kids to the park let them run off some steam. Joe was having issues with his AC so he was making sure that it was working and Megan had a girls night out, so I had the kids by myself. Missy family got to the house around 7pm, so Emily, Ethan and Jordan came to the park. Kev and Missy went into Joes house. I had a long day at that point so I hung at the park for another 15 mins o so and kissed everyone goodbye, went home and watched a movie called 2 Hearts on Netflix. When I saw 2 Hearts it reminded me of us. We always said about ourselves "2 hearts that beat as one". It was pretty predicable but it was a nice movie, with the normal bitter and sweet moments. I was sleeping by 10PM.

On Sunday I went to Mass, then to visit you, then to grocery store. I made myself eggs, tortias with avocado and coffee. I went to see Joe play his baseball game at 1PM. As always it was a blast. Joe and James are just hilarious. I just love being with all of my Grandkids, I feel at home when we are together. I was home around 230, watched some golf and made Italian sausage with mozzarella and green peppers and Jewels potato salad for dinner. I have enough for dinner tonight. Played the piano for a little bit, read a little bit and in bed around 9PM.
I feel that you are at peace. Please continue to watch over us and we will continue to pray for you.
All our love forever and a day my Love.

Matthew J Sherman
   Posted Tue June 08, 2021
Happy Anniversary!!! Today 47 years ago I asked you out and you said yes. This is the day that our love found a beginning. Now of course we were just kids...I just turned 14, you were 12. It is funny because the next day you broke up with me because I was too old for you...by that evening we were going out again. Little did we know that 47 years later we would have children and grandchildren. I know most people don't celebrate this kind of a thing but we did, because we knew that without a beginning there can't be a middle or an end. We took our love to the end of this world, but there is another world ahead of us. A world without end. There you wait for me, as I wait for the door to the new world to open. I have to complete my task here on earth first, whatever that looks like. Is it making sure our grandkids graduate from college? All are married? Our 1st Great grandbaby is born into the world? I don't know Gods plan for how or when I will cross over to where you are, I just have to keep the Faith that we will be together again my love. Until then please watch over our family and know that you are loved by our children and grandchildren. But no one loves you more than me...forever and a day.

Matthew J Sherman
   Posted Mon June 14, 2021
Hi Mary. We are in Week 18 of your spiritual journey.
It was a nice Saturday. It was a little crazy weather day. We finally got some much needed rain. The lighting was putting on a show and the thunder shook our house a few times. It stopped raining at around 430, just as I was leaving to go to the Canal Days fest. By the time I got there the sun was out and the humidity kicked it up a few notches. I met up with Missy and her family and Laura and Tim. Laura and Tim invited me out to this event to watch a band called the Righteous Hillbillies. They love this band and now I know why. They are a southern rock band...like Lynard Skynard. Laura introduced me to the band and her friends that follow the band too, they were all so kind to me. Laura shared our story with them.
I was there at the main stage when I noticed Kevin's brother Tom and his wife and daughter. So we were talking and hanging out for a few minutes before Missy and the family showed up.
I hung out with Missy and the kids for a little bit and then they went on the carnival rides. I went to hang with Laura and Tim and listen to the music.
Mary and Danny Cirrello had a food booth there so Laura and I took a walk over there to say hi. It was a nice 30 minute chat, I tried to buy an Italian lemonade but they refused to accept my money.... At this point the crowd was thin but within an hour or so it was like the flood gates opened and it was wall to wall. We went back to the main stage and I had a couple of beers. Missy reached out to me and said Emily was not feeling well and they were leaving. I was able to catch up with them and share some love. Emmy said she thinks it was from the rides. Because the crowd was so thin there was no wait at the rides so she was going 240. At this point there were long lines at the rides and everywhere else.
I went back to the car to sit in the AC and cool down but I decided it was time to leave. It was almost 8PM, the music was blasting and I just wanted to go home. I text Laura when I got home that I was home, and that I was sorry I did not say goodbye...she said no worries.
Sunday I went to Mass. I went to visit you but for some reason I was having a difficult time. I was just missing you so much. I guess with the weather changing and the city opening up and allowing us to do things I was thinking about all the things we would be doing. I was seeing us going to New Buffalo to hang at the beach. Go for a late lunch in the little downtown district, hit the little shops and buy some things for the kids. Then head home, get some rest, freshen up and go for a nice dinner, meet up with our friends at the local and just enjoy. Those kind of thoughts came crashing down on me. I finally was able to think straight around 8PM. I was in bed at 830.
I did go see Joe play his game at noon, and James gave me some love. Joe invited me over after the game but I just wanted to be alone. I have been through this before, I was having a bad day and I just wanted my space to let it play out. This event was a day long event for me, so it was pretty bad. I woke up today and I felt better. I was ready for another day.
I love you and miss you Mary and pray that you are at peace. We will be together again when the time is right.
All our love...forever and a day.

Its G
   Posted Thu June 17, 2021
Hey C it's been a while to write but I am always thinking about you. Today I am missing you and wanting to talk to you. I have so many friends but you were the only one I would speak to on the phone. I'm missing my best friend. It's been tough some days and other days I'm ok.yu werent suppose to go before me.i still have a hard time with that.i know writing on here is for condolences but I somehow feel like if I write on here that maybe you will get my messege.i listen to your voice mail of you saying hey G its C. I miss that so much.i miss my Best friend. I love you Mary someday we will see each other again.my heart still breaks. Love G.

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